“That’s millions of guys who seldom meet women because they are too shy. There’s very little competition for these bachelors—and you can have your pick, if you are willing to make the first move.” “Many women are looking for a ‘good’ partner but have not defined what good looks like,” Drenner explains. “Keep in mind that the man across the table from you is ‘still single,’ as well, so don’t be embarrassed or uncomfortable about your own dating status,” Daniels suggests. “If you were catching birds would you place your bird seed in multiple places or would you have it in just one place? I will give you one exception here: If he has separated from his wife eons ago, the divorce is moving along at a decent pace, and the divorce just isn’t done… I had stopped all communication with him except between lawyers. Even if you manage to keep the relationship going for a long period of time, even post their divorce being final, you have now ended up with a boyfriend who has yet to deal with anything. It’s exciting and interesting to look at who is out there. That’s how you proceed as healthy as possible with the next phase of your life. Each situation is different but I’ll say at least six months.
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